[Repost Thursday] Fourteen Tips for Running a Good Meeting.

Thursday, September 4




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Nothing can drain the happiness from you faster than a long, unproductive meeting. You’re bored; you’re not getting anything done; emails are piling up while you sit, trapped.
On the other hand, a productive meeting is exhilarating. A long time ago, when I was working in Washington, D.C., I remember a friend who worked at the Department of Justice saying, “Jamie Gorelick runs a meeting so well, it brings tears to my eyes.”

Meetings come in all shapes and sizes, so not all of these strategies will be useful, but here are some things I try to remember when I’m in or running a meeting:
1. Very obvious: Start on time, and end on time. Once people see that meetings are starting late, the bad habit builds, because people see there’s no point in showing up promptly. Here’s one solution for late starts: a friend worked at a law firm that started fining partners $100 if they were late to a meeting, which turned out to be very effective. If the meeting has to run long, say, “We’re not through with the seven points, so can everyone stay fifteen extra minutes to wrap up?” That way, people know that the end is in sight.
2. At the same time, remember that it’s helpful to spend a little time in chit-chat. For a long time, I didn’t believe this to be true, and I tried to be hyper-efficient, but now I realize that it’s important – and productive – for people to have a chance to relate on a personal level. People need to build friendships, they need a chance to show their personalities, they need to establish rapport. Meetings are very important for this process.
3. If some people hesitate to jump in, find a way to draw them out. Ability to grab the floor doesn’t necessarily correlate with capacity to contribute.
4. One of the most insightful things my father ever told me was, “If you’re willing to take the blame, people will give you the responsibility.” Meetings often involve blame-giving and blame-taking, and although it’s not pleasant to accept blame, it’s a necessary aspect of getting responsibility (if deserved, of course). Proving my father’s point, one of my best meeting experiences ever was a time when I took the blame – rightly – for something done by a team of people working with me. Doing this ended up dramatically increasing my organizational credibility on all sides.
5. Share the credit. Along with blame, a meeting is also a great place to give people credit for their ideas and accomplishments. Be quick to point out great work or to call for a round of applause for a colleague. For some reason, people often act as though credit is a zero-sum goody, and if they share credit, they’ll get less themselves. From what I’ve seen, sharing credit not only doesn’t diminish the number of gold stars you get, but adds to them – because people so admire the ability to give credit. (Gold star junkie that I am, I pay close attention in this area.)
6. Making people feel stupid isn’t productive, and it isn’t kind. A friend has a good suggestion: “Be cheerfully, impersonally decisive.”
7. Have an agenda and stick to it. If possible, circulate the agenda in advance, along with anything else that needs to be read to prepare for the meeting. Make sure people know if they should bring anything. Along the same lines…
8. Never go to a meeting if you don’t know why you’re supposed to be there! This seems obvious, but it’s a situation that arises surprisingly frequently.
9. Standing meetings should be kept as short as possible and very structured. Have rules for canceling the meeting when appropriate – if such-and-such doesn’t happen; if only a certain number of people can attend, etc.
10. Don’t say things that will undermine or antagonize other people. Turns out they do in fact notice this, and they don’t appreciate it. If you wonder if you’re an offender, check yourself against this list.
11. Be very specific about what the “action items” are (to use the business-school term). Who is agreeing to do what, by when? Make sure someone is keeping track of what is supposed to happen as a consequence of the meeting, and at the meeting’s end, review these items so it’s crystal clear to everyone. Follow up by email.
12. If a meeting is long, schedule breaks when people can check their email and phones. Otherwise, they get very distracted by feeling they’ve been out of touch for too long (for some people, this takes about ten minutes), and they start sneakily emailing under the table. As if no one will notice. Which they do.
13. Meetings should stay tightly focused. If people want a chance to discuss side issues, theoretical problems, or philosophical questions that aren’t relevant to the purpose of the meeting, they should set up a separate meeting.
14. Here’s a radical solution: no chairs. In Bob Sutton’s terrific book, The No A**** Rule, (printed that way not out of prudery but to avoid spamblockers), he points to a study that showed that people in meetings where everyone stood took 34% less time to make an assigned decision, with decisions that were just as good as those made by groups who were sitting down.
What am I missing? What are some other strategies for improving meetings?
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Dressing My Truth

Friday, August 29

My type 3 outfit - After i discovered my tru self

before i discovered i was a Type 3
Just as so you may know, there are 4 types of people. Definitely not the thing to be confused of but we all show those 4. But one of those is the dominant one and its certainly the thing that holds true to our being human.

That we all are made of these 4 elements and we unconsciously exude them in our traits, behavior, thought process and our physical appearances.

I am so glad to be able to share it to all of you too. I would like to know your thought about the two photos above. I guess, you would definitely go for the first one. =)

That's my type and the below image is not so my type, I look so masculine instead of looking feminine in that floral skirt. Definitely the black colored top also does not suite me.

I will talk about more of it very soon, how this profiling has really helped me understand my being me.

For more info, you can also head out to http://thecarolblog.com to know more about what I am talking about.

For now, let's bask in the sunshine and head out to the beach???

Ciao!

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[Sexy Me] Body Combat at Gold's Gym Cebu

Friday, August 15

Hi Mommsies!

You might wonder why there is this thing going on in my blog.
Well, i have signed myself up into this deal with myself that I'll go on and hopefully become a member of the hot mommas out there. just kidding!

Actually, I have started this blog series to motivate myself, to lose all the weight gained after pregnancy with Adi.

If you have been reading my blog, you would know that I delivered via C-section. yes, I went through all the misery and pain. It's like having an LBM/diarrhea/dysmenorrhea type of thing that you think it's not gonna end.

If you are a mom. You will know. Relate? I went through labor for 13 long hours!

But so much of that, now I have moved on.. my scars are still there and the big flab is still hanging on for it's dear life. I tend to lose my self-confidence thinking that I am not good at it. That other moms have long moved and lost those flabs. That they are all again sexy, like nothing ever happened? You know how that feels?
So, this post is all about a promise-to-self-motivating-reason-to-blog post.

Hope you get some ample time to go along with me in this journey.
Let me know if you're also a mom who delivered thru C-section and will maybe share some info in here on my blog. =)

Gold's Gym is one of the renowned gyms I have personally known. Yeah, I don't mean to sound really well-versed with working out. This is my first time to even enroll or be a member. But yeah, I'd like to call it lucky when I bought the metro deal voucher for only 1.4k plus instead of 4k for a month membership.

the sauna, it's a bit blurry.


shower room =)
One of the group exercise classes they offered is the famous BODY COMBAT, unlike ZUMBA it is more of intense workout. More cardio of some sorts. and toning more of the muscles.


i also did a selfie on this part of the gym. oh i wish i could do the weights but due to the operation, i can't

the gym facade =) it's really cozy . plus there's TV too!

group exercise rooms =) right after the body combat is the YOGA. so there some peeps doing the stretching


That's all for now, I failed to take some shots of the threadmill and the octane chuva machine where I did some cardio workout too. But i promise to do a shot next time.

My Progress:
Previous Weight: 138 lbs
Current Weight: 134 lbs

Weight Loss: 4 lbs.

Thanks for reading.. Till my next post!
=)
share me some of your tips?

That Moment at Durano Eco Farm Spring Resort

Thursday, August 7


Hi Mommsies!
How are you all doing?
I am really sorry for having to post very late.

I had the chance to escape the awesome household to check out this awesome place in Carmen, just a few hours bus ride from my home in Mandaue.
I was just preparing my things and packing really early so I can still catch up with the bus and my colleagues from work. What I bought with me were just shorts, flipflops, and the purple sleeveless blouse my cousin from HK gave me. 

After just about two hours, I was there na! =) wohoo!
I rode a bus going to North of Cebu and stopped by the Carmen Public market and rode again a habal habal for only 15 minutes or so. =) I just love being here in CEBU. Again, there is really no place like my hometown..

And when I got there. Just serene. Relaxing. and cold. =)

It was June 12, a holiday. Truly awesome place. Check out this beautiful tree house

if you love nature and want to really take a dip from fresh 'no chlorine' water, better head out up North and check this place.

You can also check out this site here for more details!



[STYLE] On Stripes and Wedges

Tuesday, August 5

Dress: Bazaar; Shoes: Follie

Hi Mommsies!
How's your day today?

It's been a while since I posted an OOTD.
So Now let me ha....forgive my tummy I guess I had eaten too much carbs lately and haven't gone back to running for quite a long while I guess for the last 2 months.  =)

Thanks to my sister S who purchased this dress for me.
I am in a dilemma almost everyday on deciding what to wear.
She just bought this dress for 200 pesos. amazing right? and it really fits me perfectly.

Don't get me wrong, I am not really that great in donning fashion ensembles but at least I tried.

For the shoes, I love that it is white and it goes perfectly well with the dress. =)
I bought this pair for only 300 pesos at Pacific Mall Mandaue, because it was on SALE at 50% off.

Save save din pag may time. =)
I liked the over all design of the sandals, wedge kasi and perfect for the office.
Here is a closer look at the design.

Nails: Wondernails Salon (Revlon)

Hope you all have a great day today.
Good vibes to all!



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